Face it guys, it’s an unfair world, and you have it easy if you’re hot. Girls notice you, they feel good about being approached by you, and they’re jealous if you’re not available. But, as the great Shakespeare said (or did he?) Some are born hot, and some achieve hotness. So let me decode for you what girls find attractive, and thereby thou shalt achieve hotness!
Confidence is Sexy
You could have an average height, far from your goal of 6 pack abs and inherited your nose from the wrong side of the family; but guys, if you’re comfortable in your own skin, you still make the cut. Seriously.
If you try too hard to hide or over-compensate for what you think are flaws, you come across as self-conscious. No girl wants to date a guy who looks like he’s trying too hard- squeezing himself into a tee that’s one size small or opening an extra button on his collar. You want her attracted to you, not to feel sorry for you.
Not the salt and pepper in your hair, it’s the grey cells in your brain that girls find attractive (unless of course, you’re George Clooney – then I take that back!)
A smart guy is definitely hotter than someone who’s just abs & pecs with a dumb response to everything. You could be a subject matter expert (though you don’t have to aspire to be Sheldon Cooper), generally knowledgeable, or simply have a witty repartee at the right time.
Basically if you’re intelligent, it does make you more desirable.
Taking a Stand
There’s something irresistible about a guy who stands up for what he believes is right. It instantly sets him apart from the crowd, makes girls take notice and puts him in the desirable list.
Ambition is a Virtue
Girls read sex appeal when they come across a guy who wants to brave the world out there, take a bit of a risk and win the game. No one wants to be with someone with the ambition of a Homer Simpson!
Money in itself is not much of an aspiration. It’s when something excites you, drives you, gets you passionate- that’s what’s undeniably sexy. And unfortunately, you can’t fake this one. Come on, shake off the cobwebs.
The Eyes Have It
Sexy eyes have both intensity and tenderness. If you can shower a girl with all your attention and make her feel like she’s the most important person in the room, you’re doing it right. If your words are sincere and honest, she’ll be able to read it in your eyes too.
Sure, your eyes sparkle when you’re with her; and they crinkle in a cute way when you laugh.
Make that eye contact. It’s hot.
The Physicality of it
I am sorry if I gave you the impression that looks don’t matter at all. They do. But take heart, there’s something you can do about it too 🙂
You want to hold hands with her at some point, right? But come on, surely not those dry hands and cuticle sticking out of the nails? Find yourself a good moisturizer and go for a manicure if you need it. Ya, a little bit of vanity is ok!
For similar reasons as above 🙂 chapped lips are a big no. There are some great chapsticks in the market now. You don’t have to choose a flavoured one; just something that works for you.
And fragrance! There’s something magical about it. It’s worth your while choosing a perfume that resonates with your personality, and maybe a bath range that smells good. (If you’re not sure where to choose from, have a look here).
If you’re into facial hair or a stubble, it has to be well-groomed. Ya the rugged look takes effort too; you can’t just go au naturale. And if you shave, smoother is better: the 5 o’ clock shadow only makes you look fatigued. (Luckily, there’s some good products available these days for beard and shaving)
I almost forgot, Shakespeare (or maybe it was his hot cousin) also said that Some have hotness thrust upon them. So here, I have pushed you into the hot zone because I think all nice guys deserve to be considered hot.